According to Google, mindset is “the established set of attitudes held by someone.” Think about that for a moment, established set of attitudes.
We know that good mindset equals good life. There is an abundance of material out there focusing on developing positive mindset for optimal wellbeing, career, and sporting success, yet humanity is as unhealthy as ever, overworked and stressed, and it’s rare to come across a high performance athlete without some sort of hiccup going on. What’s wrong with this picture?
For this article, I will focus on affirmations, a popular mindset activity, as an example.
An affirmation is a statement of what you want, as if you already have it. It is a very powerful tool, because using the universal laws of attraction; it draws to you like a magnet, information, opportunities and people that assist with your intention, and prompting you into action.
Affirmations work. They are precise. The only problem is that they also manifest what is going on in the subconscious mind, and this is where “established set of attitudes” becomes interesting.
Many of you may have at some point used daily affirmations, repeating phrases like:
• I am an Olympic gold medalist;
• I am at my ideal weight of blah blah kilograms;
• I am an expert in my field; and/ or
• I am confident, attractive and happy.
However, you may have given up because you weren’t getting results. Why? The answer is… TAIL ENDERS.
Tail-enders are the “yes, buts” that follow your affirmation.
“Yes, buts” come from your internal dialogue or ‘inner voice,’ and feelings in your body. These are the real thoughts and feelings that are sitting at the subconscious level, and it is these that are being manifested into form.
If you feel at peace and excited following an affirmation, then great, you are on your way. However, if you feel fear, doubt, your body tightens up, or any other subtle discomfort, don’t dismiss this, instead ask yourself why?
Tail-enders are based on personal beliefs and conditioned programming from past negative experiences, often outside your conscious awareness. These may have been picked up during childhood, from family, school, or other external sources. You may not know they are there at the conscious level, but they sit in your energy field at the subconscious level, and reflect your true beliefs. Lets repeat the above affirmations with potential tail-enders:
• I am an Olympic gold medalist… But it’s going to be almost impossible;
• I am at my ideal weight of blah blah kilograms… But I always put it straight back on;
• I am an expert in my field… But I am not smart or qualified enough; and/ or
• I am confident, attractive and happy… But people will get jealous of me.
Don’t be scared off by tail-enders. Everyone has uncomfortable thoughts, emotions and feelings, and there is nothing wrong with this. More importantly don’t beat yourself up. The key is to experience these as they come, acknowledge their message and move on from it, that’s how we evolve and grow, otherwise we get stuck.
Tail-enders are messages from the subconscious and offer you an opportunity to see what is really going on deep within.
For example, if you have always struggled with being at peace with your weight, no matter what you weight, you may need to look at themes of low self-esteem, lack of confidence, feeling protected, and your ideas around health and beauty.
So affirmations do work. It’s just that it works on your core belief, not necessarily the words that are spoken. The key is to align the core belief with the affirmation, but by listening to your inner voice and body reaction, you can get insights of limiting thoughts and beliefs that maybe blocking your true desire.
Affirmations are just one tool to improve mindset. Mastering your mindset is a life long process that requires discipline, persistence and honest self-reflection.
Practice and enjoy the journey!