I am going to be straight up with you all. I don’t believe in Twin Flames – well, not in the way that is most commonly described. To me, it’s a concept that has been romanticised to be the “ultimate experience” and has left a lot of people suffering. It breaks my heart observing this and even I got caught up in this whirlwind for a bit.
Okay….BEFORE you click out of this article – hear me out.
Up until recently, I used to believe 100 per cent that I had a Twin Flame, and trust me, I have done A LOT of research on this topic.
For those of you who are wondering what the heck a Twin Flame is, basically, it’s most commonly defined as the other “half” of your Soul. The term is also often used synonymously with Soul Mates.
Now, before I go into my explanation, allow me to qualify my reason and logic.
ALL of my life, I have had this yearning to find “the one”, and have found myself disappointed in all of my romantic relationships because this persistent longing was never satisfied. I did all the research I could possible get my hands on to explain this infinite void, and was wondering when the f*&k this person was going to “arrive” because I had done so much inner work.
I even dated someone in recent years who I was hopelessly yet oddly attracted to and triggered me to the depths of my be-ing in every way imaginable, and this experience definitely fit the whole ‘Twin Flame runner dynamic’ that is widely described. Yet, I remembered thinking how toxic this was and why would my Soul want this experience if it was meant to be “the ultimate relationship experience” as Twin Flame experiences are so often described to be.
It wasn’t until I became a Master level practitioner of the Akashic Records that I discovered that I had a negative karmic pattern that was created in a previous lifetime whereby the energy of “craving” from a relationship breakdown, that I came to the root of this longing. And since I had this energetically cleared, the longing has gone.
You see, if you have unresolved negative karma from previous lifetimes, it doesn’t disappear when you transition out of that lifetime, it gets carried forward and remains until you make a different choice to resolve it. (When I refer to negative karma – it means choices that NEGATE who you are at Soul level rather than affirm you). In that particular lifetime, when the love of my life chose another person over me, I chose to shut down my heart because of the immense heartbreak pain I experienced. And this pattern had perpetuated in this lifetime, going after partners that I like, but not deeply love, to protect myself from ever experiencing that pain again. Me choosing “safe” partners in this lifetime have led to some pretty surface level romantic relationships.
Further, the bigger picture is that this whole idea of a Twin Flame perpetuates lack – believing that you can only receive great love from ONE person. What pressure! What we have to remember is that love is one of the most abundant energies on the planet and buying into this idea of Twin Flames as it is most commonly described cuts ourselves off from such abundance, whether romantic or anything else!
So here’s the thing. Our Souls are infinite and created from an infinite source. Knowing that the universe is abundant, limitless, and creatively diverse, why would it split a Soul? (By the way, if you ‘split’ your Soul, it would no longer exist as an individuated unit, see my post, Soul Purification: What are Soul Facets?). Not only that, what are the chances that two Souls are going to incarnate within about 15 years of each other, and find each other in a population of over seven billion?
Yes – relationships, especially romantic, are very powerful ways to experience ourselves through our own creative expression, and play a major role in our personal growth. From a spiritual perspective, any relationship is successful when it teaches us more about who we truly are – however, from an egoic perspective – we often become attached to a relationship beyond the expiry date and it becomes incredibly toxic and disempowering, which then leads us back AWAY from our divine self-expression.
I know many of you have had an instant connection towards someone, and often this is because you have known them closely in previous lifetimes and/or you may have unresolved karma. This may also be mistaken as a Twin Flame.
New choices MUST be made in order to resolve karma. Yet, I’m constantly seeing people suffer in toxic relationships for years because they think they have to because this is the “Twin Flame” thing to do and make irrational justifications why they “have” to stay together. Some even live in this dynamic like a badge of honour! Short term, maybe, long term, ummm, no. Remember, choice and consequence. Make affirming choices and you will attract a loving and harmonious partner that matches your energetic signature.
Be mindful and discerning when applying any metaphysical or spiritual concept, you MUST apply reason and logic. There must be some validity – even if it’s intuitively plausible. None of this pie-in-the-sky B.S.
More and more people are starting to access their upper dimensional consciousness, and this is new territory for humanity, and with greater awareness of consciousness comes more power, and more RESPONSIBILITY! Remember, we live in a quantum universe where energy is exact, you have to be very disciplined and discerning with the information you consume.
In short, don’t get too caught up in the Twin Flame hype! I’ve seen so many people constantly disappointed and suffer and really sabotage every relationship they end up in. It’s just toxic. Enjoy life.
Having said all of that… I have noticed an increasing number of Twin Flame experts emerging who provide more grounded practical guidance that underpins personal growth through self-empowerment which focuses on your choices first in order to attract a purposeful, fulfilling, and independent relationship. This is where love truely begins, with yourself.
No matter what your beliefs are around love and romance…what your are really looking for is a Sacred Union, which is a more accurate term of that Soul level connection many are seeking on this path.
Bottom line, we are here – our Soul purpose is – to experience ourselves through our own creative process through choice and consequence, which creates karma. You do that through your relationships with people. Karma is a 24/7 cycle and you experience this in every single moment. If you choose love, that’s what you will get. If you choose struggle and drama, that’s what you get – but it’s always your choice!
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