Think happy thoughts. Stay positive. Focus on the good. Be optimistic. Raise your vibration. Surround yourself with happy and positive people. BLAH!
These are the types of messages that we see splashed across social media ALL THE TIME…and while focusing on the positive is helpful…it’s very simplistic and is only one part of the personal growth process.
Focusing on ‘happy’ or ‘positive’ may get you an immediate shift – a little pick me up – however, without also acknowledging and addressing the contributing factors as to why you aren’t feeling this in the first place, this process alone won’t stick long term.
Focusing implies ‘willing’ (read: forcing) your mind to have this experience. Not only is this ineffective or not sustainable long term, but you may also be ignoring the root cause of these less than desirable experiences, which will keep showing up until it is acknowledged.
We can never underestimate the infinite intelligence and wisdom of our inner guidance system. Remember, the conscious mind represents less than 10 per cent of what’s going on, while the subconscious represents over 90 per cent, this is why ‘thinking’ your way positive won’t work long term.
What is going on at the subconscious level shows up in our feelings, emotions, behaviours, beliefs, as well as our constant mind chatter. Your job is to listen and feel.
The problem is that we don’t always like what we hear or feel – an inconvenient truth! So we ignore it and hope it goes away. It won’t.
We are also continuously told that ‘negative’ (e.g. anger, sadness, irritability, despair, etc.) is “bad” or ‘less than’, so we don’t always allow ourselves to experience these emotions fully and safely in the moment, and then pretend we are anything but.
These unexpressed feelings don’t go away, they just get stuffed down into the subconscious. These may show up as physical ailments, ‘leaks’ of energy (e.g. we may have an anger outburst over something minor), or worse, we numb it, which affects things like self-expression and experiencing passion, love and joy. This is where dysfunctional behaviours like over-eating, alcohol and drug consumption, excess meditation/journalling, and keeping busy to serve as a distraction start to arise.
It takes brutal self-honesty and courage to delve into your deeper self and acknowledge these shadow aspects, and to do this in a non-judgmental way. However, it is the pathway to embody true happiness, in the most authentic, juicy and empowering way.
Transforming or eliminating what’s preventing you from achieving the positive outcome you desire is essential. In other words, get rid of the weeds before you plant your garden!